The most popular post on my blog so far has been "Some Well Intentioned Advice," so I thought I'd share two other recent experiences that Stewart and I have had that fall under that description. Since becoming a new parent I have heard horror stories about strangers butting in and yelling at new parents who are out and about for doing or not doing something with their infant. As a new parent, I am used to getting strong opinions from people we know, but I had not had that experience from strangers -- until a couple of weeks ago.
After eating lunch out with a friend on the Lower East Side, not too far from the apartment, I fed Max his own lunch out on Clinton Street. My plan was to take a short walk to Sugar Sweet Sunshine, a couple of blocks away, to get a cupcake and then to head back home to change Max’s diaper (a force of habit after he eats). On my way, Max started to get fussy and I could smell trouble – literally! I saw that he had a really big poop that needed to be changed immediately, as he had even crapped through his diaper! I was on Norfolk Street at the time, and fortunately there were virtually no people about. So I decided to change Max right in his stroller. As I was doing that, he started to flip out -- a rather rare but not unheard of experience! To prevent the squirming kid from getting poop everywhere, I picked him up and took him out of the stroller to finish putting him in a clean outfit. As I was doing this, all of the sudden I see a random lady run up to me and start touching Max, yelling that I was going to drop the baby! I said very sternly to her: “thank you, I am not going to drop my kid.” Her unwarranted hysteria was simply rude and unhelpful. She wandered off without another word, and I finished dressing Max and then went along my way. I could have said something slightly more choice to her at the time, but I knew it wasn’t worth it. I got Max fed, clean, re-dressed and happy, and that was proof enough that he’s got a pretty competent daddy, no matter what some stranger might have thought in her snap judgment.